big sister blog

to be able to think clearly without the constant thought of someone else in the back of your mind. 

to be able to absorb every second with friends and family without constantly checking your phone. 

to be able to make decisions for yourself without worrying what they will think. 

to be able to focus entirely on reaching your goals instead of on how you will make it work with them in the future.

to be able to sleep sprawled out in the middle of the bed every night.

to be able to appreciate the little things in life:

• an overly kind cashier
• an iced latte that’s just the right color
• your favorite candle scent
• a song that deeply resonates with you
• a beautifully unique bouquet of flowers
• the sun finally shining after a long, gloomy winter
• deep talks and laughing until your stomach hurts with your best friends
• or playing an intense game of Monopoly with family

there is something beautiful about waiting patiently until you find someone who not only meets, but exceeds your standards. 

waiting patiently until you find someone who listens intently to your passions and how your day went.

waiting patiently until you find someone who buys you your favorite flowers just because. 

waiting patiently until you find someone who takes notice of the little things that make you happy.

waiting patiently until you find someone who will drop everything to make sure you’re okay. 

waiting patiently until you find someone who doesn’t make you think twice. ever. no matter what challenges arise. 

there is something beautiful about treating failed relationships as lessons that serve as clarity for who you want the person you’ll spend the rest of your life with to be. 

there is something beautiful about realizing how incredibly worthy you are. how lucky anyone is to be in your presence, especially if they claim you as theirs. 

there is something beautiful about not settling for anyone who doesn’t acknowledge how worthy you are. who doesn’t value you to the fullest extent, like a diamond in the rough. who loves every single part of you, including your flaws. every single day. 

your 20s is the time to not only figure your life out, but also to figure yourself out. to figure out what career you want to pursue, what city you want to live in, who exactly you want to be. all while maintaining the motivation to work hard each day to achieve these goals, in order to ultimately live a happy, stable and fulfilled life. you cannot do so with another person quite literally taking half of your heart. doing so successfully requires one to have a completely clear mind and a full heart. this will lead you to finding your other half.